You know, I never really thought of writing about it until I realize that some part of the people I know might be participating in this. And before you check if I used the right information I am using wikipedia for most of the topics I post on this blog. So correct me if you want.
S&M stands for "sadomasochism" and also according to another article* is a way to "play" with your partner. It is part of the whole BDSM community in which people do other things to sexually role play (Bondage & Discipline; Dominance & Submission; and of course Sadism & Masochism). In each of these situations or "lifestyles" there is the common situation in which someone inflicts "suffering" and the other person receives it. Now it is a popular, and even considered common, among many young couples. However, it isn't a trend; this lifestyle choice has been practiced for many decades. According to the wikipedia article, it has been studied originally by two scientists Marquis De Sade and Leopold von Sacher-Masoch as a "phenomena" of human behavior within people with mental illnesses/sociopaths and or people "with malicious social and sexual behaviors" (that sounds rapists to me) in the 1800's. I think the rest you can find out for yourself. However, it has been a very convenient topic among people to discuss of whether it is right or wrong to do it. I frankly would never partake into that because of how I feel about that personally. But knowing one of my friends, it is a choice among people. It isn't really a rape situation for the most of them anyway. Though, I think it is a lot to think about because sometimes you do have to look at the psychology of the person. No one really knows if a person partaking in a lifestyle like this might have a mental trauma or an issue in which they were made into a submissive person or because they were taught to "inflict suffering" on others. Everyone chooses what lifestyles they want to partake in. It's all on the person's perspective. So in reality, the question for this type of lifestyle isn't whether it is right or wrong; it's whether it is right for you as the individual and even your significant other (if you have one).
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